Dementia Frustration: Be a healer not a hater

Dementia frustration

As patients with dementia start losing their capabilities they become extremely anxious and very frustrated. There comes a moment, before they fully forget how to do things, that they remember they could carry on tasks on their own yet can’t seem to get them right. It is a time that can be very frustrating for the person suffering from dementia as well as their caregiver.  This time is extremely trying for the caregiver as they might not understand the frustration and losing their patience is as easy as pie.

Positive Reinforcement

Focusing on positivity and making it the center of everything you do is the very first step you have to take to deal with the frustration that your loved one might be going through. Remember that their frustration will also affect you and will put your caregiver capabilities to the test. It is said that happiness and positivity are contagious. This is something you will want to pass on to your loved one and make sure they get well infected!  When they are mad about not being able to do something on their own, focus on the things they can still do. Tell them you are there for them and that he or she is not alone. Remind them we all need a little help from friend every now and then.

Keep it Simple

Simplify your loved one’s life in every way possible.  When getting dressed, make sure shirts are already buttoned except for the top two buttons, pants should have elastic waist with a zipper, and best shoelaces are also the elastic ones. There are also other daily living aids that will assist your loved one in ways and will extend their independence for a few more years. Examples of these are the reachers, shoe horns, sock aids and more.

Implement Fun and Games

Just because your loved one is an elderly person it does not mean that they won’t do good with games.  Personally, I can recommend dominoes, simple jigsaw puzzles, singing, bubble bursting and a few others. When you keep your loved one busy with games not only are they exercising their memory and their brains, but more so you are providing a way for them to have fun and to laugh.  Laughter is without a doubt the best medicine you can provide to anyone no matter their age or condition.

Music is Magical

Keep in mind that the very last part of the brain that is affected last by dementia is the one where emotions are kept.  Play some music from your loved one’s past and see for yourself how magic happens.  Did you get a chance to watch “Alive Inside”?  If you have not, please do. It will expand your possibilities on how to make your loved one happier than ever.