A Positive attitude and Caregiving

positive attitude

Pretty much every single caregiver I know share one thing in common, they are a joy to be around them. They have this energy about them that really is contagious. Is like the glow with positive energy. I recently had a conversation with a close relative who dedicated almost a whole decade to caring for a relative on a daily basis. As we spoke about small things, just the regular insignificant things you are able to speak during family gatherings, it dawned on me that this person took some year plus of a decade of her life to care for another human being. Dedicating her life entirely to make sure this family member was looked after, cleaned, fed and so on. As I was talking to this member of my family, I realized that she always had this positive vibe about her. She is a joker, always quick to come up with a witty remark or a joke, she is chatter also, and she will talk to you for hours and hours and not get bored. Above all, she is a very caring and happy person. I have rarely seen her upset or angry about something. I just wish I had her temper.

I asked her about her times caring for our family member, she smiled and said: “it was a beautiful time.” Her response floored me, because she meant it, you could see it in her eyes. But then she added one thing, that eventually lead me to write this article: “the key to facing difficult obstacles is to keep a positive attitude in life, no matter what you do or where you are”.

Caregivers are beacons of light. They overflow with love and kindness. But the key ingredient that helps them take on the monumental task that is to care for a person with special needs is a positive outlook on life. And in this day and age of cynicism, staying positive almost seems like a mutant ability, it is not. It is something that we are able to create and nurture. The secret is not to follow tips on how to radiate positive energy; the trick is to find what gets you in that mental state of happiness, and bliss. It is a state where you are happy and you wholeheartedly wish for your fellow man to be happy also. Don’t you roll your eyes at me! I know it sounds a bit corny, but is the god honest truth. It exists and we are all capable to tap to that emotion. If you are a caregiver, and you are feeling a bit down here are some examples of small things that can plant a seed in your heart:

·         How do you feel when someone on the street passes you by and smiles? It makes you want to smile at the next person you see. Its sort of a smile tag game of "you’re it”. Go ahead try it tomorrow morning, smile at the most people you can, see how you feel in the afternoon.

·         Out of the blue, contact someone you care about that you haven’t spoken to in a while. No special reason to do it, just say hi, see how they are doing. Social media, believe or not, was invented for that exact same reason. Go ahead reach out to that cousin of yours that you haven’t heard from in a while.

·         Try to find something positive to say about your surroundings. Enjoy the warmth of a sunny day; cherish the calming effect of a raining afternoon. Those small details and things that surround us have an effect on us but it depends on how you perceive them. If you apply a positive spin on things you will feel a change.

·         Finally, realize that the work you are doing is admirable. The effort that you give daily is a beautiful thing that not only does impact you; it can affect the people around you. Even if they might not say it, they just look at you at family gathering in awe and amazement of the labor of love that you do.