Typical Caregiver Scenario you don’t Want to go Through

I guess that those of us who are involved in caregiving are not exempt from any of the difficult times that being a caregiver involves. There are ups and downs in this work of love. There are good times, better times and beautiful times. There are also bad times, worst times and simply horrible times.  Being a caregiver is like taking a ride on an emotional and sometimes endless rollercoaster. When you think the ride is coming to a stop and you are about to get down, you go past the boarding station and it just takes you on another round of emotions and physical strain.

Grandpa passed away three months ago and you can read all about it in a blog I started in his honor called Heroes of Love.  It has been a hard road to emotional recovery for the entire family but we have accepted his departure and understand life has to move on.  In the process Grandma, as his caregiver, gave her time and all her strength to his care and forgot or refused to take care of herself.  Unfortunately this is a common scenario in caregiving. The caregiver begins to ignore the signs and symptoms of caregiver stress and physical alerts the body begins to turn on.  Today and as I write, Grandma is at the hospital and she being tested for a possible gastric ulcer. She stopped taking care of herself and eating small portions of food “on-the-go” because of how busy she thought she was with grandpa. Now, the body is reacting to those months of physical strain and denial. 

Is one of your loved ones a caregiver?

 If you answer yes to this question, pay close attention to the following signs and symptoms of caregiver stress and do not allow your loved one to go through the same thing my grandma is going through.

·         Your loved one neglects him/herself in every aspect.

·         They are constantly angry or aggravated

·         Seem to be overwhelmed

·         Is constantly worrying or suffers from anxiety episodes.

·         Can’t sleep well

·         Chronic Conditions get much more intense

·         Cannot concentrate well enough

·         Physical appearance changes and environmental changes

If a caregiver is not able to balance flexibility with time, physical health, social relationships, emotional well-being and personal life in general along with being a caregiver, then something has to change and sometimes it is up to you to change it.  Caregiver get so immersed in their roles and believe they are superman or wonder woman and will deny that they need any help.